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A New Direction

"The Sin That Kills Unity"

1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity 2 It is like the precious ointment upon the head, that ran down upon the beard, even Aaron’s beard: that went down to the skirts of his garments; 3 As the dew of Hermon, and as the dew that descended upon the mountains of Zion: for there the Lord commanded the blessing, even life for evermore. Psalm 133:13

The single most deadly thing that exists for unity is gossip or dissention. In any conflict whether work,church,home,friends,or family the first temptation is to vent to others, even if under the terms of confidentiality. Even worse is to make particulars of these conflicts known publicly. We should always agree with whomever we are at odds with, that unless both parties agree to make others part of the solution, to not make them part of the problem. Proverbs 6:1619 teaches in the last part of the last verse that God has listed such gossip in his seven most hated abominations.

Jesus himself confirms this in Matthew 18:1517. In verse 16 he says that if the other party will
not hear us we are still only to involve others in their presence. To hear us does not mean they necessarily solve every issue immmediately, but as long as they are open to us at all, it must be only us,them,and God.

One of the most valuable lessons I ever learned in ministry, years ago was this. "In the kingom of God everything always goes up, not out." Any other course of action according to proverbs 6 is a recipe for sudden destruction.

In the legal system this kind of communication is known as "Ex Parte" and is usually a major
infraction of the rules. This is so, because, it often works in the favor of one party and directly opposed to another. Such communication results in an inability of one party to explain their situation or defend themselves.

If in conflict both parties should agree if outside parties are involved. The only exception to this would be situations of immedite imminent physical danger. This is always the most hopeful way to resolve problems.

This content (excluding Scripture quotations, as designated by their chapter and verse references, along with the translation from which they are taken) is the property of Chris Nelson, if you would like to contact Chris and request usage of his weekly column for your publication, or to specifically use this article, email him at cnelson.chris@gmail.com. Chris serves as the Sunday school teacher for the Adult Class at Life and Praise Fellowship in Greenville, KY. He is also an evangelist, and he would be happy to speak at your church.